Dear Mathira & Rose,

My boyfriend is 29 years old and is a huge fan of Penelope Cruz. He has her picture in his wallet, posters in his bedroom, wallpaper on his phone, etc. Magazines with her cover pictures and interviews line up his room. He keeps comparing me to her, saying how I should make my hair like her, wear makeup like her, thin down a bit so I would look like her, it is crazy and I’m getting fed up. He has even mentioned how he would sleep with her in a heartbeat if he ever got an opportunity. I know it’s stupid, but I’m so annoyed that I want to dump him. But then I think how silly it sounds that I want to leave him just because he likes Penelope Cruz. Please advise.

Rose’s advice:

Dumping him doesn’t sound silly. I think you should leave him. Tell him that he deserves better, in fact, he deserves Penelope Cruz. This guy’s clearly living in a fantasy world. True, we all are fans of one celebrity or another, but we don’t start obsessing over them. Even keeping pictures and posters is acceptable but to compare his girlfriend to Penelope Cruz is wrong because you are your own personality and that actress is her own. This guy clearly has mental problems. I think you should leave him and before leaving him, just say that I’m in love with xyz celebrity and since you look nothing like him, I’ve to dump you. If you don’t leave him, he’ll mess up your mind more and this would affect your self confidence and self esteem.

Mathira’s advice:

Sometimes you don’t realise but mental issues are pretty common. Every third person is going through them but they’re shy to accept. All I’m going to say is that he has a mental issue. He has fantasised about an artist and now he’s obsessed with her. This actually happens when admiration turns into obsession. You need to take him to a shrink before you leave him. Also, tell him that this relationship will end if his obsession didn’t. You need to give him that wakeup call. It could even be dangerous and this will grow if you don’t stop him. Leaving him will not be a solution. If you love him, you need to work it out.

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